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Contempt (of court)

Violating a court order, such as repeatedly withholding court-ordered parenting time. Proving a pattern usually requires dated documentation of each violation.

What contempt means

Contempt is the failure to obey a valid court order. In custody matters it usually looks like one parent repeatedly withholding court-ordered time, refusing exchanges, or ignoring decision-making terms. A contempt finding can carry real consequences, but courts set a high bar: they generally want to see that the violation was clear and, often, willful.

Meeting that bar is a documentation problem. A single frustrating incident rarely gets there; a dated pattern often does. Each entry that captures what the order required, what actually happened, the date, and the effect on the child builds toward the specific, provable pattern a contempt motion needs.

Example: an order gives you alternate weekends. Logging four consecutive weekends where the other parent canceled at the last minute, each with the date and the message canceling, turns a vague grievance into an itemized record your attorney can act on.

Whether conduct rises to contempt, and what remedy follows, is jurisdiction-specific and a decision for the court, so treat documentation as the raw material and let your attorney judge the threshold.

Related terms

Parenting time / Visitation
The schedule of time a child spends with each parent under the order or plan. Deviations from it, late, missed, denied, are the most commonly documented custody events.
Modification
A court-approved change to an existing custody or support order, usually requiring a substantial change in circumstances, demonstrated with evidence spanning months rather than days.
Parenting plan
The document setting out the custody schedule, holidays, exchanges, decision-making, and often how expenses are shared. The baseline your documentation gets compared against.

Keep reading: How to Document Custody Violations (So Your Record Holds Up), or return to the full glossary.

This definition is general information, not legal advice. Terms and their exact meanings vary by state, county, and case; for how this concept applies to your situation, consult a qualified family-law attorney.